“It is never too late to be what you might have been.” George Eliot

“Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.” Chinese proverb

“Every woman has at her core unfailing, perfect wisdom.” Tara Mohr “Playing Big”

“You don’t answer to a wide swath of people and their opinions, even if they are good people with good opinions. … You get to make your life. And not only can you make it, you can remake it.” Shauna Niequist

“[I paired] emotion and thought to come up with decisions that felt as emotionally satisfying as they were sensible. No more ‘second thoughts’ that were really first feelings, calling into question decisions already made. Now once I reached a decision, the decision stayed in place, not because I ignored my feelings, but because I considered these feelings in making it.” From “The Love List” in Ask Me About my Divorce

Connection Exercise

First, get your journal and favorite pen, writing down what comes to you makes it easier to remember later.

  1. Find solitude – this can be as big or as little as you need. Walk in nature. Take a bath or a shower. Sit in your favorite chair with a cup of tea or coffee. For those of us with little kids, even a quick hide-out in the bathroom with the door locked can work.
  2. Close your eyes. Take 5 deep, slow, breaths. Fill your lungs all the way down to the center of your stomach, then exhale just as deeply.
  3. Feel your feet on the floor.  (Should you have time, a quick grounding exercise can help. If you are outside and it is safe, take your shoes off and connect to the earth. Feel roots growing out of the soles of your feet and down into the earth, down down to the center of the earth and wrap your roots around the glowing ball of energy there. Then draw the energy up through your roots, through your feet, your legs, your pelvis, your belly, your chest, your throat, your head until you feel it over flowing – out the top of your head, out of your fingers and back to the ground like a waterfall.) Feel into your body – are you relaxed? Relax your jaw, your tongue, your forehead.
  4. Place your hands over your heart and ask your question, either out loud or just in your heart.
  5. Listen for the wisdom. It might come in a whisper of words. Or in images or symbols. It might be a physical sensation, a rising rush through your body. It might be a feeling of deep knowing that is beyond words.
  6. Open your eyes and write what came.